For the next 6 months I am going to take a step everyday to Rewrite the Story of My Life. I want to encourage people to do the same by sharing what I am doing to change all the aspects of my life that aren't "written" exactly the way that I want it to be.
My blog is inspirational but most importantly honest. Any bad days, set backs and achievements need to be documented because it's importantly to be honest about where you're starting. Otherwise you have no hope of achieving the life you want.
I’ve determined that 2010 is going to be my year. I not only want 2010 to be my year, but all of those around me to have it be their year as well. It’s time for everyone to stop making excuses as to why their dreams don’t come true. In 2008 my husband and I had a HORRIBLE year. My husband was in school and because of downsizing I had been let go of my first high paying job since graduating college. In 2008 we were drowning. In 2009 we were treading water and by the end life was okay. 2010 is going to our year to sail!
This is why I started making my changes in 2009. So many people make New Year’s resolutions or say I’m starting this on Monday. It’s so much a part of society that it’s also acceptable to not follow through. Therefore I started my changes a month before so that Rewriting my Story wasn’t just another failed resolution. Also, my resolution this year was to have the best year of my life. That incorporates everything: building my business, building better relationships, losing weight, etc. I encourage all of you to figure out what you need to change in your life and roll them into one resolution as well.
One of the changes that I made was writing down a list of everything I wanted to happen so that each morning I had something to look forward to. On that list for the last two weeks I had, “Thank you for our raises.” I said our so that it could be either my husband or I. However, on New Year’s Eve the hubby went out for drinks with some coworkers and found out that the position we’ve been waiting to open for about two years is being posted soon! Since he’s been an intern there forever we believe it is just his for the taking. It will equal about a $10000/year raise! Then, I found out I’m getting anywhere from a $2-3 per hour raise! Which between the two of us after taxes will be almost $900 more per month! One of my goals has been to double our income and this takes us one step closer.
However, while I’m doing okay on my other changes I am working on getting back on track with my Isagenix and not complaining. My last wisdom tooth is coming in (which is weird because I should be too old for this) and I’ve been in a lot of pain for the last week… which I’ve been complaining about. Which has then made everything worse. So again I’m working on that aspect of it!
I hope you all get amazing news to start off 2010 as we did! What are your resolutions?
Recently I’ve had people mention words to me that I use a lot… such as my hope, I wish, etc. Mostly in comments such as: I really hope my story inspires others, or I hope my visions start kicking in. These are pretty common phrases but by using them we are keeping our intentions held back. If we truly get what we think about then we need to start paying closer attention to what we say. This goes along with my earlier changes in that I have started noticing what I complain about and negative comments about others… it’s time to put it into practice for the everyday situations.
Life has been pretty amazing recently. Today while I was helping in my mom’s boutique I had a sale of almost $1000 in jewelry while the rep for that company was there! Also, my mom’s business partner gave me an amazing Christmas present for all the extra things I do. It felt so good to be appreciated and to receive the unexpected, thoughtful gift.
We also had an amazing Christmas with my husband’s family. My family is all this week and I’m pretty excited to see how everyone reacts to what we picked out. This is kind of a long week though with all of the traffic through the store. I’ve come home exhausted every night. Any ideas on how to keep positive and energetic with all of the holiday madness?
I’ve also decided to make a change a week instead of a day. When I make one everyday I don’t have time to make my new change a habit and I get lost on everything I’ve done. So I’ll still blog about every other day but make big changes once a week.
Also, my eating habits change is going to happen right after my last Christmas on Sunday. I’ll be AMAZINGLY good except for ON New Year’s eve =)
No matter how much we try to change our present situation a lot of us are still held back by our previous beliefs. Subconsciously we still hold on to beliefs that aren’t true, just part of the story we tell ourselves. This occured to me yesterday when I had lunch with an amazing friend. She is my direct upline in Isagenix and has truely made a huge impact on my life.
She told me that another member of our team’s daughter, who I had graduated high school with, was moving back to town and that we should all get together for drinks because most of her friends had moved out of the area and she was looking to reconnect. My first reaction was to shy away. In high school she had been incredibly beautiful and popular. While I had a lot of friends in all different cliques I was a little bit of a goody two shoe and overweight. In my mind that made me not good enough to be her friend. However, once I stopped to think about my life in the 8 or 9 years past high school I haven’t been afraid to be anyone’s friend. I haven’t felt intimidated or not good enough like I did back then. So why should I let that stop me now that I’m basically meeting someone I only knew by reputation before? My change today is to let go of past assumptions about people and not be afraid to connect with them.
Life has been pretty good recently. I was about ready to say nothing else amazing had happened but that’s not quite true. Nothing from my goals has occurred recently but I had an amazing lunch with a friend yesterday that inspired today’s blog entry.
I’ve been really good about not complaining and talking negative about myself. My husband said that as a result we’ve been getting along a lot better, nothing overtly negative has happened in our life. So that’s definately been progress. I’m still working on my visualization and so forth, which I’m still struggling with. My change for health is still going slow but I’m not giving myself too much of a hard time till after the holidays. Same with pursuing my business. I’m still discussing it and not giving disrgarding opportunities but I haven’t been setting as many goals in that area as I should either.
Be yourself, because you truely are good enough and worthy of everything that you want…
What can I say besides life’s good. My personal life is improving everyday. My days are going smoother and I feel good almost all the time. Mentally the differences are dramatic.
However, with the holidays I am having issues with eating healthy and staying on track with Isagenix. The program is so easy to follow and it works but I find myself stealing a fresh baked cookie at work or meeting the girls for drinks at night. So I’ve decided to try and maintain through the week and then let loose a little on the weekend. After the craziness is over I’ll start going hard core again.
However, I am having dificulty feeling “worthy” of having my perfect body and monetary success. So that’s the change that I’m making today. I’m going to feel worthy of achieving my dreams. It’s hard to believe something is possible with all of your heart when you don’t think that you really deserve it. So here it is:
I deserve to be beautiful.
I deserve success.
I deserve financial freedom.
I deserve miracles.
What do you deserve?
The holiday’s are here… make to set your goals high for 2010 because you deserve it!
This morning a coworker and I were talking about bills, etc. It reminded me of every single reason I want to rewrite my story. Life’s too short not to see the world. Life’s too short not to help other people make their life better. Life’s too short not to feel good about yourself. In other words: Life’s too short not to be happy.
With Christmas right around the corner I’m reminded of my goal to truely help others. The more successful I am financially the more I contribute that way. The more freedom I have through network marketing the more I can give my time. The more successful I become the more I can help by sharing my story.
My life is improving a little everyday. Overall I’ve been so much happier and energetic. I feel like karma is so much better now that I try not to but as much negative energy out there. Today my mom mentioned how much more fun I am to be around now that I don’t complain =) Between not complaining, not talking about others and not putting myself down my spirits have been so much better.
As far as the changes by making my list and enjoying the day it’s been better. I’m still not where I want to be with my eating habits or my visualization but I am working on them and that’s the goal of all of this!
Today my change is going to be to appreciate all the amazing things people do for me and say about me. I’ve begun to accept compliments but not take them to heart. That’s changing today. Especially when it comes to my husband. I always tell him he’s blind but I need to accept that he loves me and the things that he thinks are my best qualities!
So often in our life, after we set our goals, we think of “Someday”. Someday I’m going to have that lake house… Someday I’m going to be gorgeous and attract all the attention… Someday I’m going to take that trip through Europe… Someday… Someday… Someday. Here’s the problem with Someday… there’s no guarantee and it won’t magically appear.
Setting goals and having dreams is the first step to achieving the life that you want to live. However, when you constantly look at the world and think about all the things you DON’T have and think negatively about your future… your dreams are never going to come true. You have to believe that it’s possible and constantly move towards them. If you want to be a partner in your firm but you consistently wish the day was over then you’re not putting forth the effort for the promotion. Think of life as a game. In order to “win” you have to take the steps to reach it.
Say you want financial freedom but you believe the only way to get there is at your 9 to 5. You can’t think inside that box because working at a typical job will never get you financial freedom because once you stop working you stop earning money. That’s why you need to look towards real estate, investments, network marketing or formulating a business you can sell to start doing one of those other things.
If you want to be in shape and feel beautiful but you constantly sit at home and eat junk food- you’re not moving towards your goal. Absolutely every single one of your “somedays” are possible but it will take some type of action (keep an eye on possibilities- don’t try to force things) and a positive attitude. When you consistently view the negative then you never see the opportunities that are right in front of you.
I know it’s been a few days since I’ve written, I was aching to get my hands on the keyboard but our computer was having issues! Life has been pretty fantastic recently. I’m getting better at believing in possibilities. We had spent a little too much on Christmas presents and the bank was a little low so I decided to attract some unexpected income. The other day in the mail was a $200 check from my mother in law for Christmas! Yesterday on my daily checklist of things to look forward to I put that we’d have at least $3000 in sales at my mom’s boutique. I left at 6 with over that! My problem is that when I set a goal like that I want it that day but often it takes a couple so I need to learn to have faith and not force it!
However, I do find it hard to visualize so I’m trying to work on that, hopefully it’ll get easier in time. I’ve still been great at recognizing when I say something negative about myself or others and it’s getting to be further in between. I’ve even been taking compliments a little more. It’s definately improved my overall attitudue! We’ve even been getting more invites for events and meeting fantastic new people.
Which brings me to my change today. I want to meet new people. I want to expand my personal network, both personally and professionally. Don’t get me wrong, I have amazing friends and family but I grew up with five siblings and lived in a sorority house all through college. Even almost five years after college I still miss the involvement and having people around all the time. In that I also want to attract people with similar beliefs in possibilities. A lot of my friends think I’m crazy because I try to be so positive all the time or talk about ideas for stepping outside of the box.
What do you feel is a good way to meet new people?
I have been working on my changes for over a week now and came to a conclusion today: the change for today should have been the first one. Before I can rewrite the story of my life I have to rewrite my character. Making changes in my life will help for a short time. However, if I don’t see myself as thinner, successful and benefiting others then eventually I’ll end up back where I started. So as of today I’m rewriting my character and here’s her characteristics:
1) She’s creative and has amazing ideas.
2) She’s beautiful and has a gorgeous figure.
3) She’s successful and uses her resources to help others.
4) She’s confident and considerate of others.
5) She consistently has new opportunities in her life.
6) She meets new people who play a positive role in her life.
7) She is a support system for everyone in her life.
While I currently do have some of these characteristics, I want to believe that I am worthy of being successful and beautiful. For a long time I’ve played the entertaining “fat” friend and I believe I deserve to be more than my stereotype. I doubt my ideas and don’t feel confident. All of these need to be changed.
Any ideas how I can start using these principles to retrain my brain?
Think about your day for a second. How soon is it after you arrive at work that you start wishing it was time to go home? An hour, two… maybe you’re one of the lucky few that last until lunch time. What about that big event that’s coming up, maybe it’s an event or a holiday or just the weekend. Now let’s pretend that 2 hours after arriving at work you start messing around, just burning time till you can go home and do what YOU want. That’s an average of 6-7 hours PER DAY that you’re wishing would just disappear from your life… that’s at least 30 hours per week and 120 hours per month! Don’t even get me started on how much that is over a year or lifetime.
However, that’s where we’re all wrong. Each day is just an excuse for something amazing to happen. Maybe you’ll meet someone that will play an important role in your life. Maybe you’ll hit a few thousand on a random scratcher ticket. Or perhaps, just spending time with the people you care about is enough (which it should be)!
This is the number one reason each person should rewrite their story. Yes, we want more out of life. Yes, we have the power to achieve it. Yes, each day is a gift and should be treated as such. The reason being: life is too short to waste it by wishing it away.
The reason I bring it up is that I found this being the case today. I just wanted to be done with a project that I’m working on for a friend. For a good two hours I changed the colors on the background image and looked for inspiration on a facebook game. Life is about doing favors for friends, by spending time helping someone you care about plan a wedding, by brightening a stragers day. These are the things that are important. Life’s too short not to have time for these things. Life’s too short to say no to an awesome party, vacation or a chat with a loved one. Rewrite your life so that you have the time because no one else will give it to you.
Today I was pretty successful once I realized that inspiration wasn’t lurking in my game. I have one pretty good template on a project I’ve been procrastinating on. Now I just need one more. Also, I’ve been fantastic on recognizing my habits and working on rewriting situations as they happen. As soon as I make a comment that’s been on the change list I correct myself then and there. (I won’t lie, sometimes people look at me strangely because, like the former me, they don’t realize how negative what I just said was.)
As far as my change for today I’m going to try and start visualizing. I have such an energetic personality that I have problems quieting my brain long enough to focus on what it is I’m trying to accomplish. Prior to today I’ve tried visualizing before bed and right when I wake up. They say that your brain is more suseptible to fantasies at this time. However, I have discovered that I end up falling asleep! So from now on I’m going to set time aside right before I leave for work or right when I get home.
It’s easy to give up and get discouraged when you have a day, especially one where you feel like you let yourself down. Yesteday was one of those days for me. I made a few negative comments about my appearance, spread some gossip about a coworker and complained about Christmas music. The positive aspect is that I caught myself each time and was able to recognize what I said instead of it being automatic like it used to. However, I do think Karma was mad at me because I caught my fingernail on a chair and I bent it backwards. The band aid on my finger keeps reminding me to keep my changes in the front of my mind =)
The other thing I have to keep reminding myself is that rewriting a story isn’t just a change here and there. Oftentimes author’s change things and then have to go back and edit it once again. Then again. And again. However, the changes are having an overall positive effect on my life. Each day I keep applying the “rewrites” it gets a little better. Today I got up and made my list for the day and I have already marked off 2 of my 5 to do’s for the day! I also ate pretty well yesterday and so far I’m on track for today. Getting ready for ISA shake number two.
With everyone who’s gotten sick this year I’m so thankful that I found Isagenix. My parents, sister, husband and I are all on the products and none of us have gotten our yearly cold or the flu. That in and of itself says a lot! Now that I’m physically feeling better I’m going to continue working on my health and seriously start building my Isagenix business.
Which brings me to my change today. I’ve always been afraid of “selling” something because it makes me uncomfortable when people sell me. Instead I want to make an impact on people’s lives the same way Isagenix has done for me. I think this could be a large part of doubling my income in the next 6 months. However, I simply want to lead by example and have people ask what’s different in my life. By becoming healthier and being positive I think that everything will fall in place. The company believes in changing lives and for what I’m wanting to accomplish at this point in my life it’s the right step.
I also want to work harder on my freelance work. It’s going to be part of my not procrastinating as much. When I really want to impress people I hit road blocks and I put off getting things done. By focusing on the goal and using past changes to believe in myself I think that my other business will begin to thrive as well.
Any suggestions for helping build either business or staying on track with my changes?
Every person in your life is a character in your story. While conflict is a common in a great story do you want it to be a conflict between you and another character? When rewriting the story of my life I feel like it’s important to rewrite some of my relationships as well. Perfect examples: the lady who drives me crazy a work, the driver who cuts me off on the highway, the person who runs to get in front of me at the grocery store and most importantly those closeset to me who tend to drive me nuts from time to time.
I’ve decided today (after my husband was talking horribly about other drivers!) that I need to change the way that I talk about other people. For the most part I’m incredibly easy to get along with and would never say anything that would intentionally hurt anyone. However, I do find myself reverting to comments such as can you believe she wore that in public? Or you will not believe what I found out about Sally Jo today. Since I keep puttig forth that negative Karma I believe it holds me back from making the positive impact that I want to have on others.
How can I expect people to take me seriously about wanting to impact others if I don’t practice what I preach. The other issue is that I also project that negativity about myself. Frequently I’m afraid that people are talking about me. If I don’t feel confident about how I look that day I imagine people making similar comments that I would make. (However, not feeling confident everyday is one of the things I’m trying to change under accepting compliments… believing in myself more).
As for today I got up and wrote my list. My random event to look forward to was an unexpected surprise. The crazy part was that we went out for drinks and apps for a coworkers birthday and my husband and I had a pretty huge tab and my two boss’ picked up the whole thing! Having something to look forward to everyday and using the power of attraction REALLY WORKS. Try it!
I also managed to accept compliments and not complain. The result: I had an amazing day! Tomorrow marks the day I go back to hard core diet and seriously persuing the goal to be half my size. If I combine that with not complaining about it the results should be amazing.
